Happy Thanksgiving!


Yep, that’s us. His grace is sufficient, right? It’s much better when my husband adds guitar, but he was at work, so maybe next time….. The song is Jesus Thank You by Sovereign Grace

St. Therese of Lisieux on dealing with difficult people:
“Lord, bless this person for giving me the opportunity to suffer” (paraphrased as best I can remember)…because suffering draws us closer to God



All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation: that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. 2 Corinthians 5: 18-19


May you persevere this weekend. His mercy and strength sustain you when you grow weak. Identify the enemy and take it seriously. Make war. Be vigilant. War against out-of-control desire, passivity, and cruelty. Each day a marathon.

Thankfulness For Our Weaknesses


“I, too, had experienced situations from which there seemed to be no escape. I, too, had been in the grip of a kind of dark night that seemed impervious to all reason, all human help, all prayer. Grace is needed and yet grace also seems most likely to appear–as had happened in my case–when, from the depths of our heart we cry out our misery and ask for help. Most likely, perhaps, but not inevitably: in fact, the seeming randomness of who gets out from beneath the obsession for alcohol and who doesn’t; who stays sober for decades and who dies in the gutter, makes this confluence of will and grace one of the deepest mysteries I know.
We don’t know. We can only be grateful when and if the lightning-quick opening occurs. We can only know that we are not loved one iota more if we get sober, or one iota less if we stay drunk. We can only hope to do the best we can with what we’ve been given.” ~Heather King, Shirt of Flame: A Year with Saint Therese of Lisieux

“But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me” 2 Corinthians 12:9

Years of berating myself for my weaknesses. Years of shame. Years of not being enough. This idea of boasting in weakness is completely foreign to me, and one I still can’t quite wrap my mind around. What is this weird idea in the scripture? How do people put this into action? How much perseverance do I really need?

2 Corinthians 12:10 “For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

On Being Thankful In Weakness (White Trash Mama)

Teaching Character

I’m often trying to teach my kids character, but this chart has made it simpler and more straightforward. I love how bible verses are attached to each character trait. It’s a little overwhelming, 48 of them; but that’s about one a week for a year. I like how I can have something to point to and say to my children, “this is the goal, this is what we’re aiming for. We’re going to miss the target often, but this is where we’re headed as a family.”


Found at Operational Definitions of Character Qualities (printable available)
(Note: the writing below each trait is not the bible verse, it is inspired by the bible verse)

(Note: When I teach these, I plan on using the bible verses instead of the definitions because there is power in words, and the bible is the living Word, working in us)

Truthfulness vs. Deception
Earning future trust by accurately reporting past facts Ephesians 4:25

Alertness vs Unawareness
Being aware of that which is taking place around me so I can have the right response to it Mark 14:38

SELF-CONTROL vs. Self-indulgence
Instant obedience to the initial promptings of God’s Spirit Galatians 5:24–25

WISDOM vs. Natural Inclinations
Seeing and responding to life’s situations from God’s frame of reference Proverbs 9:10

RESOURCEFULNESS vs. Wastefulness
Wise use of that which others would normally overlook or discard Luke 16:10

ORDERLINESS vs. Disorganization
Preparing myself and my surroundings so I will achieve the greatest efficiency I Corinthians 14:40

Showing the worth of a person by giving undivided attention to his words and emotions Hebrews 2:1

OBEDIENCE vs. Willfulness
Freedom to be creative under the protection of divinely appointed authority II Corinthians 10:5

HOSPITALITY vs. Loneliness
Cheerfully sharing food, shelter, and spiritual refreshment with those whom God brings into my life Hebrews 13:2

REVERENCE vs. Disrespect
Awareness of how God is working through the people and events in my life to produce the character of Christ in me Proverbs 23:17–18

DISCERNMENT vs. Judgment
The God-given ability to understand why things happen I Samuel 16:7

THRIFTINESS vs. Extravagance
Not letting myself or others spend that which is not necessary Luke 16:11

INITIATIVE vs. Unresponsiveness
Recognizing and doing what needs to be done before I am asked to do it Romans 12:21

SENSITIVITY vs. Callousness
Exercising my senses so I can perceive the true spirit and emotions of those around me Romans 12:15

SINCERITY vs. Hypocrisy
Eagerness to do what is right with transparent motives I Peter 1:22

GENEROSITY vs. Stinginess
Realizing that all I have belongs to God and using it for His purposes II Corinthians 9:6

DILIGENCE vs. Slothfulness
Visualizing each task as a special assignment from the Lord and using all my energies to accomplish it Colossians 3:23

FAITH vs. Presumption
Visualizing what God intends to do in a given situation and acting in harmony with it Hebrews 11:1

CONTENTMENT vs. Covetousness
Realizing that God has provided everything I need for my present happiness I Timothy 6:8

RESPONSIBILITY vs. Unreliability
Knowing and doing what both God and others are expecting from me Romans 14:12

JUSTICE vs. Fairness
Personal responsibility to God’s unchanging laws Micah 6:8

VIRTUE vs. Impurity
The moral excellence and purity of spirit that radiate from my life as I obey God’s Word II Peter 1:3

JOYFULNESS vs. Self-pity
The spontaneous enthusiasm of my spirit when my soul is in fellowship with the Lord Psalm 16:11

THOROUGHNESS vs. Incompleteness
Knowing what factors will diminish the effectiveness of my work or words if neglected Proverbs 18:15

DISCRETION vs. Simplemindedness
The ability to avoid words, actions, and attitudes which could result in undesirable consequences Proverbs 22:3

PUNCTUALITY vs. Tardiness
Showing high esteem for other people and their time Ecclesiastes 3:1

HUMILITY vs. Pride
Recognizing that it is actually God and others who are responsible for the achievements in my life James 4:6

COMPASSION vs. Indifference
Investing whatever is necessary to heal the hurts of others I John 3:17

BOLDNESS vs. Fearfulness
Confidence that what I have to say or do is true and right and just in the sight of God Acts 4:29

FLEXIBILITY vs. Resistance
Not setting my affections on ideas or plans which could be changed by God or others Colossians 3:2

DEPENDABILITY vs. Inconsistency
Fulfilling what I consented to do even if it means unexpected sacrifice Psalm 15:4

LOVE vs. Selfishness
Giving to others’ basic needs without having as my motive personal reward I Corinthians 13:3

TOLERANCE vs. Prejudice
Acceptance of others as unique expressions of specific character qualities in varying degrees of maturity Philippians 2:2

DECISIVENESS vs. Double-mindedness
The ability to finalize difficult decisions based on the will and ways of God James 1:5

GENTLENESS vs. Harshness
Showing personal care and concern in meeting the need of others I Thessalonians 2:7

FORGIVENESS vs. Rejection
Clearing the record of those who have wronged me and allowing God to love them through me Ephesians 4:32

AVAILABILITY vs. Self-centeredness
Making my own schedule and priorities secondary to the wishes of those I am serving Philippians 2:20–21

SECURITY vs. Anxiety
Structuring my life around that which is eternal and cannot be destroyed or taken away John 6:27

CREATIVITY vs. Underachievement
Approaching a need, a task, an idea from a new perspective Romans 12:2

Knowing how important right timing is in accomplishing right actions Proverbs 19:2

DETERMINATION vs. Faintheartedness
Purposing to accomplish God’s goals in God’s time— regardless of the opposition II Timothy 4:7–8

DEFERENCE vs. Rudeness
Limiting my freedom in order not to offend the tastes of those whom God has called me to serve Romans 14:21

PERSUASIVENESS vs. Contentiousness
Guiding vital truths around another’s mental roadblocks II Timothy 2:24

ENDURANCE vs. Giving up
The inward strength to withstand stress to accomplish God’s best Galatians 6:9

PATIENCE vs. Restlessness
Accepting a difficult situation from God without giving Him a deadline to remove it Romans 5:3–4

Expressing with my soul the joy of my spirit I Thessalonians 5:16,19

GRATEFULNESS vs. Unthankfulness
Making known to God and others in what ways they have benefited my life I Corinthians 4:7

LOYALTY vs. Unfaithfulness
Using difficult times to demonstrate my commitment to God and to those whom He has called me to serve John 15:13

MEEKNESS vs. Anger
Yielding my personal rights and expectations to God Psalm 62:5

(Michelle Duggar mentioned these character traits and shared the above chart and webpage in her book A Love That Multiplies)

Rules For Radicals by Saul Alinsky

I saw this Fox News video about a teacher from Vanderbilt who was being attacked by a student. She quoted philosopher Saul Alinsky from his book “Rules for Radicals”

“Pick the target, freeze it, personalize it, and polarize it.” Cut off the support network and isolate the target from sympathy. Go after people and not institutions; people hurt faster than institutions. ~Saul Alinsky

There were several more tactics he stated that were cunning and effective.

Ridicule is man’s most potent weapon. Conservatives have a tendency to try to win every debate with logic and recitations of facts which, all too often, fail to get the job done because emotions and mockery are often just as effective as reason. ~John Hawkins